Swinger Success Stories- Previous Clients
Rich
From having zero experience of the swinger lifestyle to attending parties and events.
What was the problem?
Rich was a UK-based client with minimal experience or prior knowledge of the swinger lifestyle when he came to me. All he knew was that he wanted to explore but needed to figure out how to get started. He said he was anxious and nervous, and due to his circumstances, it had been a while since he had been intimate with a woman. He told me he might need a sat nav around the female body. He was also quite daunted by the prospect of ‘online dating and swinger online dating; this was something he knew existed but didn’t know how to use.
How I helped him?
During the first session with Rich, I did a deep dive into what he wanted to experience and the scenarios he was looking to get involved with. Although initially, he told me he needed to figure out how the lifestyle ‘worked’, after our first session, it became clear to him what he wanted to experience (and not). I then helped him create a swinger dating profile, and we had a session where I talked him through using online sites and the do’s, don’ts and red flags to look out for. Rich also started visiting swinger clubs that I recommended for him based on what he wanted to experience.
What was the outcome?
Rich went from having zero experience of the swinger lifestyle to attending parties and events. The last time he messaged me, he said this:
“Hi Rosie, I’m just catching up with you, I’ve booked a swinger holiday at a hotel takeover for a few weeks, and I’m really excited!”
To see the transformation in Rich was quite remarkable. Rich was an older guy who had previously been married for many years who, prior to working with me, falsely believed that there wasn’t a place for him in the swinger lifestyle.
Shaun
Learning how to navigate in the lifestyle as a single guy after being in a relationship
What was the problem?
Shaun was a US based client, he contacted me after he had enjoyed Ethical non-monogamy with a previous partner. However, since becoming single, he was unsure whether he could still enjoy the lifestyle, and he was uncertain how to find clubs local to him in the US.
How I helped him?
During our first session, I got to know Shaun, and he opened up to me about what he would like to experience and what he had found enjoyable previously. I then helped him create a swinger dating profile and began researching parties, clubs and swingers in his local area. I then taught him how to use online sites to find clubs and swingers and be a part of the swinger lifestyle community. He began to visit more clubs, reach out to more swinger couples and get more actively involved in the lifestyle.
What was the outcome?
After working with me, Shaun realised there was a difference between single guys in the lifestyle and genuine guys like himself. He said that without my help, chances are his profile would have been overlooked. He said that after working with me, he understood that it was OK for him to live out his fantasies as a single male instead of waiting for the right partner to come along.
You’ve been very supportive & I’m transformed in my journey.
Thank you for all you have done for us!! You have been incredible in helping us along this journey and we are both having a “smashing” good time!
I genuinely mean it. You’ve helped me so much to understand myself better.
I wish the world had more people like you!
You’re simply awesome. Thanks for sharing and thanks for educating the brave!
Rosie!!!!! Your workshop, OMFG!
Mr and Mrs W
The UK-based couple who came to me having already visited a swingers club, but had so many questions!
What was the problem?
Their main concern was how to establish boundaries and how to ensure that the swinger lifestyle did not negatively impact their existing relationship. They were also unsure of what to expect when they did decide to involve other people, and what that might potentially involve.
How I helped them?
The first thing I helped them with was establishing their personal rules and boundaries, and they shared their fears, worries, and concerns. From here, they discussed what they would and wouldn’t like to experience.
I then taught them the importance of reconnecting after swinging and the steps to take to ensure their relationship was nurtured and respected.
I shared with them what to expect when playing with others in a club and what to be mindful of when they decide the time is right to get involved!
What was the outcome?
Mr and Mrs W have gone from being a curious couple to being actively involved in the lifestyle; going on swinger dates, and arranging threesomes with single women.
“We have had several conversations with like-minded couples, and last Friday we went for drinks with another newbie couple, and we two ladies were kissing and getting to know one another.
We have booked tickets for a party in London for the beginning of February…..So EXCITED!!”
Mike
"I feel so nervous when I visit swinger clubs; how can I be a more confident, successful swinger?"
What was the problem?
Mike approached me seeking advice on becoming a more confident and successful single male swinger. Although he had previously visited some swinger clubs in his home city of Amsterdam, he needed help approaching a couple and building a connection with them. He said he found it hard to keep the conversation flowing and struggled as he felt nervous about playing with them.
How I helped him?
After our initial consultation, Mike booked a 90-minute deep dive session with me, as he felt it offered him more ‘practical’ advice that he could use in the club he was already familiar with. I shared with him advice on what makes single guys attractive to couples, how to build a rapport with both men and women, and how to converse confidently with couples. I taught him how to engage with other swingers and minimize the fear of rejection.
What was the outcome?
After working with me, Mike attended a swingers club and emailed me a few days later, where he shared this:
“I approached a couple by the table. I remembered your advice on how to approach people. Shift the focus. So I did that and….it worked. I had a great time conversing with them and felt completely at ease. After that, we went upstairs and had a great time.”
He said he felt his self-esteem had improved, and he was left feeling much more confident. He went on to book another swingers party for the following month.
Carly and John
US-based couple who went from curious to confident in swinger clubs!
What was the problem?
Carly and John were a US-based couple who wanted my help creating realistic boundaries to support them on their journey to exploring Ethical non-monogamy. Carly had been hesitant about seeing John with another woman and was unsure how she would react if they were to experience this. They had been married for 20 years, had never really discussed sex and intimacy openly, and were not sure how to start talking about it without potentially causing upset for the other person.
How I helped them?
The first thing I did was to create an environment where they both felt safe, supported and heard. Once I demonstrated to them how important it was to show vulnerability within their relationship, they started to gain a deeper understanding of one another’s fears. They both began to open up about what they would like to experience and listen to one another’s thoughts on this without fearing repercussions. We then used these desires as the foundations for their rules and boundaries. To help Carly, I taught her about self-comparison and self-esteem, and I taught her to rethink how she valued herself.
What was the outcome?
Before working together, Carly and John were a couple curious about opening up about their relationship but struggling to talk about their desires. When I met them for their last session, they discussed what they would like to experience and shared with me the positive effects of how life had changed for them since starting swinging. Going to swinger clubs boosted Carly’s confidence once she accepted that it was ok to feel sexy and desired by people other than her husband. They also began to see other people in the lifestyle differently and realised that anyone they did play with was not a threat to their relationship as they once thought they were.
Katie
Discovered how to enjoy swinging on her terms!
What was the problem?
Katy was another US-based client who came to me seeking advice on starting swinging without placing too much pressure on herself. She was curious about the world of swinging but wasn’t sure if there was room for a single straight woman at swinger parties and was unsure if she was comfortable having penetrative sex whilst at a club
How I helped her?
I worked with Katie to establish rules and boundaries that would support her when visiting swinger clubs and also taught her how to communicate her limits effectively with other swingers. I gave her a much deeper understanding of what swinging was like for single women and how to enjoy it without feeling pressured into participating in something she wasn’t comfortable with. I offered her advice on what to add to her swinger dating profile.
What was the outcome?
Katie grew in confidence once she realised she had placed herself under unnecessary pressure and only had to move at a comfortable pace. She discovered that her rules and boundaries were there to support her experiences. With her newfound confidence, she began looking online at swinger couples and singles in her area.
Pete and Jane
From inital hesitation to enjoying the hotwifing dynamic
What was the problem?
Pete and Jane were a US-based couple who wanted my help and support in exploring Ethical non-monogamy within the hotwife/ cuckold dynamic. Initially, Pete had been hesitant about opening up his relationship with Jane due to his negative experience with a previous partner. However, he was still curious about hotwifing, and after an initial call with me, he decided to book a session the following week.
How I Helped Them?
I first worked with them to establish relationship rules and boundaries to support them on their journey. Jane struggled with forming her own desires surrounding the dynamic that Pete was keen to explore. I shared with her my personal experiences of being the female half of a cuckold couple and also worked with her to explore her fantasies.
I taught her how to harness the dominant traits of her personality and grow in confidence. After this, they both began to open up about what they would like to experience and listen to one another’s desires without fearing repercussions or judgement. I taught Pete and Jane how to slow the process down and move at a pace that Jane was comfortable with to avoid her becoming overwhelmed. I then worked with them to start meeting potential matches and helped them develop a process for ‘vetting’ eligible single men.
What was the outcome?
Before working together, Pete and Jane were moving at two different paces and were clashing. She felt overwhelmed, and he felt they were not moving at all. When I met them for their last session, they shared with me that Jane had been on a date with a guy they had been speaking to, and Pete had discovered that his giving consent without the need for active participation was hugely exciting.
Jane accepted and understood that it was OK to feel sexy and desired by people other than her husband. And for Pete, his satisfaction came through facilitating her desires without getting involved. They wrote to me to say that they were having two dates a week with single men and were very happy with the interest they were receiving online.
You have helped me approach the subject with her which has made it so much easier.
So a big thank you to you because without your help this would never have happened.
Rosie really helps you and guides you. She gave me some very good advice, that not only is applicable in the swinger world but also in dating and relationships in general.
I remembered your advice on how to approach people. So I did that and….it worked.
Hi Rosie, you shared some great content tonight; I loved the info about what women find desirable in male swingers.
Your strength as a coach lies in your genuine character and your vulnerability, which you are not afraid to show
Rosie is one of our favorite people to watch and learn from. So much so, that we decided to join the TKG Club.
Hi Rosie, I spoke to you in august.
I told you I was going to a swinger event in Germany.
You gave me some advice.
I just wanted to say that your advice was excellent.
The event itself was absolutely wild!
We decided to get a Coaching session from Rosie before our second Club visit. We think it has been valuable advice with plenty of pearls of wisdom and has helped us discuss and agree on our Boundaries etc.
