You CAN have your cake and eat it

Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching
for Single Women who want to get involved
in the swinger lifestyle

Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching for Single Women who want to get involved in the swinger lifestyle

with Rosie Kay

I will take you from a single woman with limited or no experience in ethical non monogamy, to a woman who is in charge of her own sexual experiences!


When I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn’t know where to start! All I knew was that being monogamous with man wasn’t for me and that part of me was craving something more. Only, I didn’t understand what this was or how to achieve it without ruining my existing relationship. When I had that Initial conversation with my partner, I was terrified of what might happen. Even though I wanted to explore the possibility of Including another person in our intimate life. I was very apprehensive.

Suddenly I was overwhelmed with fear, lack of confidence, insecurity and self-doubt. Like so many people. I believed that being ethically non monogamous meant make or break for my relationship.

Getting to the stage where I can now offer my advice and expertise has meant overcoming many obstacles, and it has been a long process.

I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.

Over the last ten years, I have discovered how to navigate the lifestyle and overcome many obstacles and difficulties.
I am here to help you understand the world of Ethical Non-Monogamy and enjoy the lifestyle with confidence without guilt or shame.

Hi, I'm Rosie Kay!


I believe there is no right or wrong way to enjoy ethical non-monogamy, and just because you are single, it doesn’t mean you have to miss out! 

For some people getting started in the lifestyle is relatively easy, whereas for others, getting involved in the swinger scene is not as straightforward as simply turning up at a club.

We are all different and unique. What feels right for one person might be the opposite of what another enjoys. With this in mind, my guidance and support are tailor-made around you, your desires and what you would like to achieve.

My ethical non-monogamy coaching session for single women is for women who want to feel empowered by taking control of their own sexual desires. If you thought swinging was only for couples, then think again! 

Single women are embraced and encouraged in the swinger world, but it can be difficult to know what to expect.

Not only will I teach you how to get involved in the lifestyle successfully but I will also help you understand why you want to experience it in the first place.

I am a single woman. And I know exactly how it feels to be a single girl attending clubs, meeting other swingers and getting involved in a world that is heavily dominated by couples.

I know what it is like to feel daunted at the prospect of getting involved, which is why I offer my coaching to single women because I know how scary it can be as a single female. 

The swinger lifestyle has given me the opportunity to be my full sexually free self and the chance to thrive as an exhibitionist.

My aim is to help single women navigate their way successfully around the heavily stigmatised world of swinging.

I will help you with:

All my consultations are strictly confidential and non-judgmental.
I offer a personal and professional service, to listen, guide and support you.

One of the best things? The lifestyle has brought me my own identity again.

A roadmap to your swinging success as a single woman

Topics we may cover:

Why DoWomen Enjoy Swinging? Swinging is hugely liberating, and in our first session together, I will teach you how to successfully navigate the world of ethical non-monogamy and how attending events doesn’t have to be as daunting as it first seems. I will teach you how to use it to boost your confidence, regardless of how you want to get involved in the lifestyle. We will discuss why women get started in the swinger lifestyle and what you can expect by meeting couples or other single swingers. I will share with you all the ways that you can enjoy ethical non-monogamy.

Is Swinging Safe For Women? A question that I am asked frequently, and one that cannot go overlooked! As a single woman, I will teach you how to stay safe whilst exploring ethical non-monogamy and advise you on what clubs and events are most suitable. I will also teach you how to meet people from swinger dating websites and share my top tips on red flags to look out for. I know what it is like to be a single female swinger, let me teach you all I know. 

Understanding Emotions When Swinging As A Single Woman. I will teach you how to understand emotions that arise when swinging and coach you to overcome jealousy, insecurity and fear. I will share insights into human nature and how our bodies and minds respond when we meet other people in the lifestyle. I will teach you how to reconnect after swinging and process the emotions you may have experienced.

I will help you create a Perfect Personal Profile. Using my expertise, I will craft the perfect swinger dating profile for you and use all my knowledge and experience to make a profile that represents your personality online. From knowing how to be appealing to couples to writing engaging messages to keeping time-wasters at bay, I will create an attractive, engaging and alluring profile that will set you apart online. 

Attending your first event is an exciting experience, and in this session, I will share with you all the steps you need to take to make sure your first experience is a positive one. Regardless of how you like to play or who you are looking to meet, I will teach you how to have confidence, charm and charisma. From what to wear for the first time, meeting other swingers, and walking into a club. When it comes to visiting an event, theres a lot to discover! You will learn exactly what to say to other attendees, how to communicate your rule and boundaries to them and how to move from polite conversation to playtime, should you wish to.

I have never felt sexier!

From a nervous newbie to a confident swinger in no time!

How does it work?

My coaching for single women will give you a thorough understanding of what being in the swinger lifestyle entails, how to stay safe, how to find events and parties and how to get involved in the lifestyle by either attending clubs or  private parties.

After an initial consultation, where I can learn a little more about how I can help you, I offer two types of consultations:

  1. One 90-minute deep dive session
  2. Three 60-minute sessions.

Following each session, you will receive a write-up in the form of an email covering key points to which you can refer back.

What’s in for you?

  • You will go from being a single girl with limited or no experience in ethical non monogamy to being a woman who knows exactly how to make ethical non-monogamy work for her! 
  • You will go from never visiting a swingers club, to gaining an understanding of where they are, how to visit them and how to be a success in the lifestyle. 


Book an initial consultation

So I can learn a little more about how I can help you.


deep dive 90-minute session

One 90-minute Deep Dive Session

If you want to get involved but have no idea how, where or what it might be like, don’t worry; this Deep Dive 90-minute session is for you.

  • Go from how to get started to where to find swingers to what is it like at a swingers party?
  • I will support, guide you and give you helpful, practical advice. Drawing from personal experiences, insights and knowledge of the swinger lifestyle and swinger clubs I’ve worked with and visited over the last 10 years.
  • I aim to give you a deeper understanding of the swinger lifestyle and how it all works.
  • I will help you not only uncover your initial fears, concerns, and worries that you might have but also teach you how to overcome them.

After our session, you will receive my written notes from the session with the steps you need to take and any articles, workshops, or downloadable guides I think will help you further.


Join TKG Club or
continue with 1-1 Coaching

As you can imagine, there are many ways to participate in Ethical Non-monogamy, and I want to ensure that the advice I give you will be beneficial and unique.

From helping you establish personal rules and boundaries to crafting an attractive swinger dating profile to advising you on which swinger dating sites to use and how to approach both couples and single men, my help is centred around you and what you would like to achieve.

After each 60-minute session with me, you will receive a write-up of actionable points and steps to take to enable you to progress further in the lifestyle.

Former clients have gone from absolute beginners, with little to no experience of swinging, to visiting clubs, parties and events within the three sessions they have had with me.


I know. I’ve been there too; you want to experience a swingers club but are very hesitant in case you feel pressured into participating in something you are not comfortable with. That’s where I can advise you on what parties and events would be more suitable for you and also how you can navigate a situation like this with ease. 

No. My coaching stems from my experience and knowledge as a relationship counsellor. The fundamentals skills that I will teach you in my coaching sessions are not available on my site or other content forms. The coaching that I offer is bespoke and deeply personal based on my client’s individual needs. 

And you don’t have to! Did you know that many of my previous clients haven’t been based in the UK either? And having spent two years living and swinging abroad, I know how to find swingers regardless of where you live 😉 

 That’s fine, really, it is. We all have to start somewhere, and I’d be lying if I said I never felt nervous; it’s okay to be apprehensive; I’m here to help you take the first step. 

Successful Swinger Stories

Carly and John

US-based couple who went from curious to confident in swinger clubs!

What was the problem? 

Carly and John were a US-based couple who wanted my help creating realistic boundaries to support them on their journey to exploring Ethical non-monogamy. Carly had been hesitant about seeing John with another woman and was unsure how she would react if they were to experience this. They had been married for 20 years, had never really discussed sex and intimacy openly, and were not sure how to start talking about it without potentially causing upset for the other person. 

How I helped them? 

The first thing I did was to create an environment where they both felt safe, supported and heard. Once I demonstrated to them how important it was to show vulnerability within their relationship, they started to gain a deeper understanding of one another’s fears. They both began to open up about what they would like to experience and listen to one another’s thoughts on this without fearing repercussions. We then used these desires as the foundations for their rules and boundaries. To help Carly, I taught her about self-comparison and self-esteem, and I taught her to rethink how she valued herself. 

What was the outcome? 

Before working together, Carly and John were a couple curious about opening up about their relationship but struggling to talk about their desires. When I met them for their last session, they discussed what they would like to experience and shared with me the positive effects of how life had changed for them since starting swinging. Going to swinger clubs boosted Carly’s confidence once she accepted that it was ok to feel sexy and desired by people other than her husband. They also began to see other people in the lifestyle differently and realised that anyone they did play with was not a threat to their relationship as they once thought they were. 


Discovered how to enjoy swinging on her terms!

What was the problem?

 Katy was another US-based client who came to me seeking advice on starting swinging without placing too much pressure on herself. She was curious about the world of swinging but wasn’t sure if there was room for a single straight woman at swinger parties and was unsure if she was comfortable having penetrative sex whilst at a club. 

How I helped her?
 I worked with Katie to establish rules and boundaries that would support her when visiting swinger clubs and also taught her how to communicate her limits effectively with other swingers. I gave her a much deeper understanding of what swinging was like for single women and how to enjoy it without feeling pressured into participating in something she wasn’t comfortable with. I offered her advice on what to add to her swinger dating profile. 

What was the outcome? Katie grew in confidence once she realised she had placed herself under unnecessary pressure and only had to move at a comfortable pace. She discovered that her rules and boundaries were there to support her experiences. With her newfound confidence, she began looking online at swinger couples and singles in her area. 


Being Ethically Non-Monogamous has brought an all-around freedom into my life.