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Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching
for Single Men who want to get involved
in the swinger lifestyle

Yes, there is space for single men in the swinger lifestyle

with Rosie Kay

Think swinging is only for couples and single women? Think again! If you are a single man who wants to get involved in the swinger scene, but have no idea how or where to begin, then keep reading!

I will take you from a single guy with limited or no experience in ethical non monogamy
to stepping through the door to your first swinger party in no time!

I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.


When I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn’t know where to start! All I knew was that being monogamous with a man wasn’t for me and that part of me was craving something more. Only, I didn’t understand what this was or how to achieve it without ruining my existing relationship. When I had that Initial conversation with my partner, I was terrified of what might happen. Even though I wanted to explore the possibility of Including another person in our intimate life. I was very apprehensive.

Suddenly I was overwhelmed with fear, lack of confidence, insecurity and self-doubt. Like so many people. I believed that being ethically non monogamous meant make or break for my relationship.

Getting to the stage where I can now offer my advice and expertise has meant overcoming many obstacles, and it has been a long process.

Over the last ten years, I have discovered how to navigate the lifestyle and overcome many obstacles and difficulties. I know a lot about open relationships.
I am here to help you understand the world of Ethical Non-Monogamy and enjoy the lifestyle with confidence without guilt or shame.

Hi, I'm Rosie Kay!


I believe there is no right or wrong way to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship.

For some people getting started in the lifestyle is relatively easy, whereas for others, getting involved in the swinger scene is not as straightforward as simply turning up at a club.

We are all different and unique. What feels right for one person might be the opposite of what another enjoys. With this in mind. my guidance and support are tailor-made around you, your relationship and what you would like to achieve.

Not only will I teach you how to get involved in the swinger lifestyle, but I will also teach you how to be a success on the scene and how to appeal to swinger couples. There’s a lot more to being a successful swinger than simply turning up! 

A large part of the journey starts with acceptance. 

Acceptance of human nature, sexuality and sexual desire. 

I will teach you about different relationship dynamics, and ways that you can get involved. I will introduce you to clubs and events that cater for single men so that you have a great experience. 

Right from the start it was quite clear that you were not judging me, you are easy to talk to and so reassuring and most of all you gave me confidence.” ~ DJ

My ethical non-monogamy coaching for single men sessions are for guys who want to get involved in the lifestyle for the right reasons and don’t want to waste their time and money being rejected. 

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"You're such a lovely person with awesome kinks. You inspired me to live out mine! With a lovely smile that says it's OK when society largely says its not. You make others very comfortable when talking about the lifestyle."

My aim is to help single guys navigate their way successfully around the heavily stigmatised world of swinging.

I will help you with:

All my consultations are strictly confidential and non-judgmental.
I offer a personal and professional service, to listen, guide and support you.

Swinging has brought us closer than we've ever felt before; a whole new understanding of one another and we now view each other in a different light.

A roadmap to your swinging success as a single man

Topics we may cover:

Over the years, I have helped many single guys get into the swinger scene and offered them help and advice for boosting their chances of success. It’s one thing to attend a party, but being successful in that setting is different altogether.
With my help, I will support you and guide you through the process. A lot of single guys don’t even get a look in with swinger couples! Luckily for you, I know exactly what couples are looking for in single guys. It doesn’t matter how you are looking to get involved; my advice can be applied to all situations. In the first session, we will explore what you can expect from getting involved in the swinger lifestyle and what you have to do to succeed.

Sadly, there is quite a lot of stigma attached to single men in the swinger lifestyle, and sometimes couples may overlook genuine single guys. I will teach you how to demonstrate to other swingers, both online and in clubs, that you are a single guy who is in the lifestyle for the right reasons.

Having fears and insecurities about starting in the swinger lifestyle is entirely understandable, and at times fear can be an overwhelming emotion. I will listen to your fears and reservations and offer you guidance, support and answers. Performance anxiety, insecurity and doubt are all reasonably common amongst men in the swinger lifestyle; luckily, I’m here to offer you some insights into what the world of swinger clubs is like for guys.

I will help you create a Perfect Personal Profile. Using my expertise, I will craft the perfect swinger dating profile for you and use all my knowledge and experience to make a profile that represents your personality online. From knowing how to be appealing to couples to writing engaging messages to organising vanilla dates, I will create an attractive, engaging and alluring profile that will set you apart online.

Attending your first event is an exciting experience, and in this session, I will share with you all the steps you need to take to make sure your first experience is a positive one. Regardless of how you like to play or who you are looking to meet, I will teach you how to have confidence, charm and charisma. From what to wear for the first time, meeting other swingers, and walking into a club. When it comes to visiting an event, theres a lot to discover! You will learn exactly what to say to other attendees, how to communicate your rule and boundaries to them and how to move from polite conversation to playtime, should you wish to.

"You’ve been very supportive & I’m transformed in my journey."

"You've helped me so much to understand myself better. I wish the world had more people like you!"

From a nervous newbie to a confident swinger in no time!

How does it work?

My coaching for single men will give you a thorough understanding of what being in the swinger lifestyle entails for single men, what you need to do in order to be a success and how to find events and parties and how to get involved in the lifestyle by either attending clubs or attending private parties.

After an initial consultation, where I can learn a little more about how I can help you, I offer two types of consultations:

  1. One 90-minute deep dive session
  2. Three 60-minute sessions.

Following each session, you will receive a write-up in the form of an email that covers key points that you can refer back to.

What’s in for you?

  • You will go from being a single guy with limited or no experience in ethical non-monogamy to being a guy who understands what the lifestyle entails, is able to have open and honest conversations with others and can practice Ethical Non-Monogamy in a way that is appealing to swinger couples.
  • You will go from never visiting a swingers club, to gaining an understanding of where they are, how to visit them and how to be a success in the lifestyle. 


Book an initial consultation

So I can learn a little more about how I can help you.


deep dive 90-minute session

One 90-minute Deep Dive Session

If you want to get involved but have no idea how, where or what it might be like, don’t worry; this Deep Dive 90-minute session is for you.

  • Go from how to get started to where to find swingers to what is it like at a swingers party?
  • I will support, guide you and give you helpful, practical advice. Drawing from personal experiences, insights and knowledge of the swinger lifestyle and swinger clubs I’ve worked with and visited over the last 10 years.
  • I aim to give you a deeper understanding of the swinger lifestyle and how it all works.
  • I will help you not only uncover your initial fears, concerns, and worries that you might have but also teach you how to overcome them.

After our session, you will receive my written notes from the session with the steps you need to take and any articles, workshops, or downloadable guides I think will help you further.


Join TKG Club or
continue with 1-1 Coaching

As you can imagine, there are many ways to participate in Ethical Non-monogamy, and I want to ensure that the advice I give you will be beneficial and unique.

From helping you establish personal rules and boundaries to crafting an attractive swinger dating profile to advising you on which swinger dating sites to use and how to approach both couples and single women, my help is centred around you and what you would like to achieve.

After each 60-minute session with me, you will receive a write-up of actionable points and steps to take to enable you to progress further in the lifestyle.

Former clients have gone from absolute beginners, with little to no experience of swinging, to visiting clubs, parties and events within the three sessions they have had with me.


You could. But chances are you wouldn’t have the best time. As you can imagine, many guys want to get involved in the swinger lifestyle, and because of this, they face a lot of rejection. Unless you know how to be a success in the lifestyle, which is what I will teach you, you too will face rejection. 

That’s fine, really, it is. We all have to start somewhere, and I’d be lying if I said I never felt nervous; it’s okay to be apprehensive; I’m here to help you take the first step. 

No. My coaching stems from my experience and knowledge as a relationship counsellor. The fundamentals skills that I will teach you in my coaching sessions are not available on my site or other content forms. The coaching that I offer is bespoke and deeply personal based on my client’s individual needs. 

And you don’t have to! Did you know that many of my previous clients haven’t been based in the UK either? And having spent two years living and swinging abroad, I know how to find swingers regardless of where you live 😉 

Yes, from swinger dating sites to more ‘vanilla’ dating sites, there are plenty of places to meet people, and I will advise you on how and where to find someone who is into the lifestyle!

Successful Swinger Stories


from having zero experience of the swinger lifestyle to attending parties and events.

What was the problem?
Rich was a UK-based client with minimal experience or prior knowledge of the swinger lifestyle when he came to me. All he knew was that he wanted to explore but needed to figure out how to get started. He said he was anxious and nervous, and due to his circumstances, it had been a while since he had been intimate with a woman. He told me he might need a sat nav around the female body. He was also quite daunted by the prospect of ‘online dating and swinger online dating; this was something he knew existed but didn’t know how to use.

How I helped him? 
During the first session with Rich, I did a deep dive into what he wanted to experience and the scenarios he was looking to get involved with. Although initially, he told me he needed to figure out how the lifestyle ‘worked’, after our first session, it became clear to him what he wanted to experience (and not). I then helped him create a swinger dating profile, and we had a session where I talked him through using online sites and the do’s, don’ts and red flags to look out for. Rich also started visiting swinger clubs that I recommended for him based on what he wanted to experience.

What was the outcome? 
Rich went from having zero experience of the swinger lifestyle to attending parties and events. The last time he messaged me, he said this:

“Hi Rosie, I’m just catching up with you, I’ve booked a swinger holiday at a hotel takeover for a few weeks, and I’m really excited!”

To see the transformation in Rich was quite remarkable. Rich was an older guy who had previously been married for many years who, prior to working with me, falsely believed that there wasn’t a place for him in the swinger lifestyle.


learning how to navigate in the lifestyle as a single guy after being in a relationship

What was the problem?
Shaun contacted me after he had enjoyed Ethical non-monogamy with a previous partner. However, since becoming single, he was unsure whether he could still enjoy the lifestyle, and he was uncertain how to find clubs local to him in the US.

How I helped him? 
During our first session, I got to know Shaun, and he opened up to me about what he would like to experience and what he had found enjoyable previously. I then helped him create a swinger dating profile and began researching parties, clubs and swingers in his local area. I then taught him how to use online sites to find clubs and swingers and be a part of the swinger lifestyle community. He began to visit more clubs, reach out to more swinger couples and get more actively involved in the lifestyle.

What was the outcome? 
After working with me, Shaun realised there was a difference between single guys in the lifestyle and genuine guys like himself. He said that without my help, chances are his profile would have been overlooked. He said that after working with me, he understood that it was OK for him to live out his fantasies as a single male instead of waiting for the right partner to come along. 

Want to start swinging, but don't know where to look? Well, look no further!