You CAN have your cake and eat it
Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching
for Couples who want to get involved
in the swinger lifestyle
Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching for Couples who want to get involved in the swinger lifestyle
with Rosie Kay
'We want to swing but are worried it might jeopardise our relationship?'
Enjoy all the fantastic physical and emotional intimacy that comes with being in a relationship
whilst exploring your sexuality in a way that doesn't jeopardise your romantic partnership.
WE ALL HAVE TO START SOMEWHERE IN THE SWINGING WORLD AND TRUST ME WHEN I SAY I LEARNT THE HARD WAY!
When I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn’t know where to start! All I knew was that being monogamous with man wasn’t for me and that part of me was craving something more. Only, I didn’t understand what this was or how to achieve it without ruining my existing relationship. When I had that Initial conversation with my partner, I was terrified of what might happen. Even though I wanted to explore the possibility of Including another person in our intimate life. I was very apprehensive.
Suddenly I was overwhelmed with fear, lack of confidence, insecurity and self-doubt. Like so many people. I believed that being ethically non monogamous meant make or break for my relationship.
Getting to the stage where I can now offer my advice and expertise has meant overcoming many obstacles, and it has been a long process.
I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.
Over the last ten years, I have discovered how to navigate the lifestyle and overcome many obstacles and difficulties. I know a lot about open relationships.
I am here to help you understand the world of Ethical Non-Monogamy and
enjoy the lifestyle with confidence without guilt or shame.
Hi, I'm Rosie Kay!
NON-MONOGAMY & OPEN RELATIONSHIP COACH
I believe there is no right or wrong way to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship.
For some people getting started in the lifestyle is relatively easy, whereas for others, getting involved in the swinger scene is not as straightforward as simply turning up at a club.
We are all different and unique. What feels right for one person might be the opposite of what another enjoys. With this in mind. my guidance and support are tailor-made around you, your relationship and what you would like to achieve.
Not only will I teach you how to do this successfully whilst keeping your relationship intact, but I will also help you understand why you feel this way in the first place.
A large part of the journey starts with acceptance. Acceptance that we are responding to our bodies’ natural urges Acceptance that our sexuality is something to be embraced. And acceptance that placing all expectations on one partner for the rest of their lives is very unrealistic.
My ethical non-monogamy coaching for couples sessions are for people who want to feel reassured that having the desire to open up your relationship or explore other types of relationships is possible.
One of the best things has been watching my wife grow and experience new things
with me by her side.
My aim is to help other people navigate their way successfully around the heavily stigmatised world of swinging.
I will help you with:
All my consultations are strictly confidential and non-judgmental.
I offer a personal and professional service, to listen, guide and support you.
Swinging has brought us closer than we've ever felt before; a whole new understanding of one another and we now view each other in a different light.
A roadmap to your swinging success as a couple
Topics we may cover:
The most important, fundamental step to any successful Ethically Non-monogamous relationship. You will discover how vulnerability leads to deeper connection and how that leads to increased intimacy. I will teach you the importance of expressing vulnerable emotions in your relationship and how to communicate freely without the risk of jeopardising your relationship. The first hurdle that any couple has to overcome is opening up to one another without fear. Often, fear of rejection from their partner is a deciding factor as to why many people never express their true desires. I will teach you the three core ingredients you need for a successful Ethically Non-Monogamous relationship which will be implemented throughout your journey.
Getting to grips with guilt, shame or judgement that you may be experiencing when discovering Ethical Non-monogamy is really important. I will help you to understand why you are on this journey and why your relationship type is valid. I will teach you how to deal with negative stereotypes and why we seek validation in society.
Using the skills taught in session 1, we will uncover what you would like to experience. What aspects of Ethical Non-monogamy appeal to you as a couple and as individuals? From this conversation, I will gain an in-depth insight into what you may enjoy and teach you how to facilitate these desires in a mutually beneficial way for the relationship and support you both as individuals when exploring them.
Having fears and concerns about opening up your relationship is entirely understandable, and at times fear can be an overwhelming emotion. I will listen to your fears and reservations and offer you guidance, support and answers. Overcoming jealousy in relationships is something that I have had a lot of experience in, both personally and professionally. With my help, I will show you how to approach jealousy from a different angle and create a relationship where jealousy is an emotion you accept, understand, and manage in a way that supports you both as individuals.
A fundamental step for any successful ethically non-monogamous relationship. Drawing up rules boundaries and having shared relationship goals is essential as these guiding principles provide comfort, security and reassurance when first discovering Ethical Non-monogamy and throughout your journey. I will assist you in creating rules and boundaries that are mutually beneficial and supportive of your relationship
There are many ways to practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, and there are different relationship dynamics present in the swinger lifestyle. From relationship hierarchy to monogamish to open relationships, we are all different, and each couple has their ideas about what feels right for them. Let me help you determine your ENM style and tailor experiences that suit your relationship dynamic.
When it comes to visiting swinger clubs or events, it can be confusing to know where to start. You want to visit a club suitable for your needs, and attended by like-minded people, who you be able to connect with. The last thing you want is to waste your time, effort and money, signing up for something you might not enjoy. Let me do the hard work for you. My knowledge of swinger clubs, parties and events is extensive. I know exactly what club owners are looking for in new members and how to find a club that is perfect for your first experience.
In this session, you will discover the importance of reconnecting after swinging and how uncovering emotions you have experienced is vital when participating in the lifestyle. With my help, I will demonstrate to you why reconnecting is a key step and how having an open dialogue surrounding your reactions and responses is essential to forming a rock-solid relationship.
Attending your first event is a stimulating experience, and in this session, I will share with you all the steps you need to take to make sure your first experience is a positive one. Regardless of how you like to play or who you are looking to meet, I will teach you how to have confidence, charm and charisma. From what to wear for the first time, meeting other swingers, and walking into a club. When it comes to visiting an event, theres a lot to discover! You will learn exactly what to say to other attendees, how to communicate your rule and boundaries to them and how to move from polite conversation to playtime, should you wish to.
We've witnessed each other grow as people, not just within the Lifestyle but how we view ourselves, certain situations and how we overcome things as a couple.
From a nervous newbie to a confident swinger couple in no time!
How does it work?
My coaching for couples will give you a thorough understanding of the fundamental ingredients to a successful Ethically Non-Monogamous relationship and all the skills you need to put those practices into play.
After an initial consultation, where I can learn a little more about how I can help you, I offer two types of consultations:
- One 90-minute deep dive session
- Three 60-minute sessions.
Following each session, you will receive a write-up in the form of an email that covers key points that you can refer back to.
What’s in for you?
I will teach you not only how to navigate the world of ethical non-monogamy, but also how to use the skills taught to enhance your relationship, gain an insight into human nature and overcome many obstacles faced by couples in traditionally monogamous relationships.
Book an initial consultation
So I can learn a little more about how I can help you.
deep dive 90-minute session
One 90-minute Deep Dive Session
If you want to get involved but have no idea how, where or what it might be like, don’t worry; this Deep Dive 90-minute session is for you.
- Discover how to get started to where to find swingers to what is it like at a swinger’s party?
- I will support, guide you and give you helpful, practical advice. Drawing from personal experiences, insights and knowledge of the swinger lifestyle and swinger clubs I’ve worked with and visited over the last 10 years.
- I aim to give you a deeper understanding of the swinger lifestyle and how it all works.
- I will help you not only uncover your initial fears, concerns, and worries that you might have but also teach you how to overcome them.
After our session, you will receive my written notes from the session with the steps you need to take and any articles, workshops, or downloadable guides I think will help you further.
Join TKG Club or
continue with 1-1 Coaching
As you can imagine, there are many ways to participate in Ethical Non-monogamy, and I want to ensure that the advice I give you will be beneficial and unique.
From helping you establish personal rules and boundaries to crafting an attractive swinger dating profile to advising you on which swinger dating sites to use and how to approach both couples and single people, my help is centred around you and what you would like to achieve.
After each 60-minute session with me, you will receive a write-up of actionable points and steps to take to enable you to progress further in the lifestyle.
Former clients have gone from absolute beginners, with little to no experience of swinging, to visiting clubs, parties and events within the three sessions they have had with me.
Swinging can’t save a bad marriage.
If you are facing difficulties within your relationship that stem from trust issues and cheating, then swinging won’t remove the problem.
Ethical non-monogamy needs to come from a place of mutual respect, love and honesty and should never be seen as a last resort.
Yes, after each session, I will be available via email to answer any of the questions that you may have, and I will give you a write up of each session detailing the key points that I believe you need to work on.
No. My coaching stems from my experience and knowledge as a relationship counsellor. The fundamentals skills that I will teach you in my coaching sessions are not available on my site or other content forms. The coaching that I offer is bespoke and deeply personal based on my client’s individual needs.
Did you know that many of my previous couple clients haven’t been based in the UK either? And having spent two years living and swinging abroad, I know how to find swingers 😉
Yes, this is quite common amongst my coaching clients; some couples have been to a swingers club before meeting with me and seek further guidance and support, even though they have taken the first step.
Within most couples, it is normal for one person to be hesitant or apprehensive; after all, we are all individuals with our levels of comfort. I help couples experiencing this by teaching them how to slow the process down and move at a pace they are both comfortable with and support one another.
Successful Swinger Stories
Carly and John
US-based couple who went from curious to confident in swinger clubs!
What was the problem?
Carly and John were a US-based couple who wanted my help creating realistic boundaries to support them on their journey to exploring Ethical non-monogamy. Carly had been hesitant about seeing John with another woman and was unsure how she would react if they were to experience this. They had been married for 20 years, had never really discussed sex and intimacy openly, and were not sure how to start talking about it without potentially causing upset for the other person.
How I helped them?
The first thing I did was to create an environment where they both felt safe, supported and heard. Once I demonstrated to them how important it was to show vulnerability within their relationship, they started to gain a deeper understanding of one another’s fears. They both began to open up about what they would like to experience and listen to one another’s thoughts on this without fearing repercussions. We then used these desires as the foundations for their rules and boundaries. To help Carly, I taught her about self-comparison and self-esteem, and I taught her to rethink how she valued herself.
What was the outcome?
Before working together, Carly and John were a couple curious about opening up about their relationship but struggling to talk about their desires. When I met them for their last session, they discussed what they would like to experience and shared with me the positive effects of how life had changed for them since starting swinging. Going to swinger clubs boosted Carly’s confidence once she accepted that it was ok to feel sexy and desired by people other than her husband. They also began to see other people in the lifestyle differently and realised that anyone they did play with was not a threat to their relationship as they once thought they were.
learning how to navigate in the lifestyle as a single guy after being in a relationship
What was the problem?
Shaun contacted me after he had enjoyed Ethical non-monogamy with a previous partner. However, since becoming single, he was unsure whether he could still enjoy the lifestyle, and he was uncertain how to find clubs local to him in the US.
How I helped him?
During our first session, I got to know Shaun, and he opened up to me about what he would like to experience and what he had found enjoyable previously. I then helped him create a swinger dating profile and began researching parties, clubs and swingers in his local area. I then taught him how to use online sites to find clubs and swingers and be a part of the swinger lifestyle community. He began to visit more clubs, reach out to more swinger couples and get more actively involved in the lifestyle.
What was the outcome?
After working with me, Shaun realised there was a difference between single guys in the lifestyle and genuine guys like himself. He said that without my help, chances are his profile would have been overlooked. He said that after working with me, he understood that it was OK for him to live out his fantasies as a single male instead of waiting for the right partner to come along.