You CAN have your cake and eat it

Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching
for Couples who want to get involved
in the swinger lifestyle

Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaching for Couples who want to get involved in the swinger lifestyle

with Rosie Kay

Enjoy all the fantastic physical and emotional intimacy that comes with being in a relationship whilst exploring your sexuality in a way that doesn't jeopardise your romantic partnership.

Enjoy all the fantastic physical and emotional intimacy that comes with being in a relationship
whilst exploring your sexuality in a way that doesn't jeopardise your romantic partnership.


When I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn’t know where to start! All I knew was that being monogamous with man wasn’t for me and that part of me was craving something more. Only, I didn’t understand what this was or how to achieve it without ruining my existing relationship. When I had that Initial conversation with my partner, I was terrified of what might happen. Even though I wanted to explore the possibility of Including another person in our intimate life. I was very apprehensive.

Suddenly I was overwhelmed with fear, lack of confidence, insecurity and self-doubt. Like so many people. I believed that being ethically non monogamous meant make or break for my relationship.

Getting to the stage where I can now offer my advice and expertise has meant overcoming many obstacles, and it has been a long process.

I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.

Over the last ten years, I have discovered how to navigate the lifestyle and overcome many obstacles and difficulties. I know a lot about open relationships.
I am here to help you understand the world of Ethical Non-Monogamy and enjoy the lifestyle with confidence without guilt or shame.

Hi, I'm Rosie Kay!


I believe there is no right or wrong way to enjoy a non-monogamous relationship.

For some people getting started in the lifestyle is relatively easy, whereas for others, getting involved in the swinger scene is not as straightforward as simply turning up at a club.

We are all different and unique. What feels right for one person might be the opposite of what another enjoys. With this in mind. my guidance and support are tailor-made around you, your relationship and what you would like to achieve.

My ethical non-monogamy coaching for couples sessions are for people who want to feel reassured that having the desire to open up your relationship or explore other types of relationships is possible.

Not only will I teach you how to do this successfully whilst keeping your relationship intact, but I will also help you understand why you feel this way in the first place.

A large part of the journey starts with acceptance. Acceptance that we are responding to our bodies’ natural urges Acceptance that our sexuality is something to be embraced. And acceptance that placing all expectations on one partner for the rest of their lives is very unrealistic.

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One of the best things has been watching my wife grow and experience new things
with me by her side.

My aim is to help other people navigate their way successfully around the heavily stigmatised world of swinging.

I will help you with:

All my consultations are strictly confidential and non-judgmental.
I offer a personal and professional service, to listen, guide and support you.

Swinging has brought us closer than we've ever felt before; a whole new understanding of one another and we now view each other in a different light.

A roadmap to your swinging success as a couple

The most important, fundamental step to any successful Ethically Non-monogamous relationship. You will discover how vulnerability leads to deeper connection and how that leads to increased intimacy. I will teach you the importance of expressing vulnerable emotions in your relationship and how to communicate freely without the risk of jeopardising your relationship. The first hurdle that any couple has to overcome is opening up to one another without fear. Often, fear of rejection from their partner is a deciding factor as to why many people never express their true desires. I will teach you the three core ingredients you need for a successful Ethically Non-Monogamous relationship which will be implemented throughout your journey. 

Getting to grips with guilt, shame or judgement that you may be experiencing when discovering Ethical Non-monogamy is really important. I will help you to understand why you are on this journey and why your relationship type is valid. I will teach you how to deal with negative stereotypes and why we seek validation in society.

Using the skills taught in session 1, we will uncover what you would like to experience. What aspects of Ethical Non-monogamy appeal to you as a couple and as individuals? From this conversation, I will gain an in-depth insight into what you may enjoy and teach you how to facilitate these desires in a mutually beneficial way for the relationship and support you both as individuals when exploring them.

Having fears and concerns about opening up your relationship is entirely understandable, and at times fear can be an overwhelming emotion. I will listen to your fears and reservations and offer you guidance, support and answers. Overcoming jealousy in relationships is something that I have had a lot of experience in, both personally and professionally. With my help, I will show you how to approach jealousy from a different angle and create a relationship where jealousy is an emotion you accept, understand, and manage in a way that supports you both as individuals.

A fundamental step for any successful ethically non-monogamous relationship. Drawing up rules boundaries and having shared relationship goals is essential as these guiding principles provide comfort, security and reassurance when first discovering Ethical Non-monogamy and throughout your journey. I will assist you in creating rules and boundaries that are mutually beneficial and supportive of your relationship

There are many ways to practice Ethical Non-Monogamy, and there are different relationship dynamics present in the swinger lifestyle. From relationship hierarchy to monogamish to open relationships, we are all different, and each couple has their ideas about what feels right for them. Let me help you determine your ENM style and tailor experiences that suit your relationship dynamic.

Using my expertise, I will craft the perfect swinger dating profile for you and use all my knowledge and experience to make a profile that is a true representation of your relationship online. From knowing how to attract the right people to writing engaging messages to organising vanilla dates, I will create an attractive, engaging and alluring profile that will set you apart online.

When it comes to visiting swinger clubs or events, it can be confusing to know where to start. You want to visit a club suitable for your needs, and attended by like-minded people, who you be able to connect with. The last thing you want is to waste your time, effort and money, signing up for something you might not enjoy. Let me do the hard work for you. My knowledge of swinger clubs, parties and events is extensive. I know exactly what club owners are looking for in new members and how to find a club that is perfect for your first experience.

In this session, you will discover the importance of reconnecting after swinging and how uncovering emotions you have experienced is vital when participating in the lifestyle. With my help, I will demonstrate to you why reconnecting is a key step and how having an open dialogue surrounding your reactions and responses is essential to forming a rock-solid relationship.

Attending your first event is a stimulating experience, and in this session, I will share with you all the steps you need to take to make sure your first experience is a positive one. Regardless of how you like to play or who you are looking to meet, I will teach you how to have confidence, charm and charisma. From what to wear for the first time, meeting other swingers, and walking into a club. When it comes to visiting an event, theres a lot to discover! You will learn exactly what to say to other attendees, how to communicate your rule and boundaries to them and how to move from polite conversation to playtime, should you wish to.

We've witnessed each other grow as people, not just within the Lifestyle but how we view ourselves, certain situations and how we overcome things as a couple.

From nervous newbies to a confident swinger couple in 10 weeks

Coaching sessions consist of 10 meetings with me, preferably over the course of 10 weeks.

Following on from each session you will receive a write up in the form of an email that covers key points from each session with actionable points with areas that require thought or discussion in your relationship.

By the end of the 10 sessions with me, you will have a thorough understanding of the fundamental ingredients to a successful Ethically Non-Monogamous relationship and all the skills you need to put those practices into play. 

I will teach you not only how to navigate the world of ethical non-monogamy, but also how to use the skills taught to enhance your relationship, gain an insight into human nature and overcome many obstacles faced by couples in traditionally monogamous relationships.


Swinging can’t save a bad marriage.

If you are facing difficulties within your relationship that stem from trust issues and cheating, then swinging won’t remove the problem.

Ethical non-monogamy needs to come from a place of mutual respect, love and honesty and should never be seen as a last resort.

No, but when you start discussing swinging within your relationship, you open up a whole new platform for honest discussion and conversation.

No. But what I can do is teach you how to have an open and honest conversation about exploring sexuality and intimacy.

That’s ok! The skills you will learn from me can be used in any Ethically Non-monogamous relationship. You may decide that you may only want to meet a couple in private or have an open relationship. The techniques that you learn from me to do this successfully are the same. 

It took me 10 years to gain the knowledge, experience, and confidence to develop a deep understanding of Ethical Non-monogamy. So in comparison, 10 weeks is the minimum. 

Yes, after each session, I will be available via email to answer any of the questions that you may have, and I will give you a write up of each session detailing the key points that I believe you need to work on. 

No. My coaching stems from my experience and knowledge as a relationship counsellor. The fundamentals skills that I will teach you in my coaching sessions are not available on my site or other content forms. The coaching that I offer is bespoke and deeply personal based on my client’s individual needs. 

Being Ethically Non-Monogamous has brought an all-around lighter feeling to our relationship. We have a complete level of freedom and communication that we've adopted into our regular life.