Hello, I'm Rosie!
the girl behind ThisKindaGirl.
I’m a non-monogamy and swinging lifestyle coach.
I’m here to help people talk about their sexual needs openly so they can have meaningful and satisfying relationships built on trust and honesty.
Over the last ten years, I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.
When I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn't know where to start!
We all have to start somewhere in the swinging world and trust me when I said I learnt the hard way. I started TKG because I wanted to help people navigate their way successfully around the heavily stigmatised world of swinging and non-monogamy.
TKG was born out of a desire to share my honest advice about swinging, alternative relationships and human nature. In my blog articles, workshops and social media I banish myths about the world of Ethical non-monogamy and those who enjoy it.
I believe that we humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like, and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.
Becoming TKG has been a gradual process; when I first discovered the world of ethical non-monogamy, I didn’t know where to start! All I knew was that being monogamous with man wasn’t for me, and that part of me was craving something more.
Only, I didn’t understand what this was or how to achieve it without ruining my existing relationship. When I had that initial conversation with my partner, I was terrified of what might happen.
Even though I wanted to explore the possibility of including another person in our intimate life, I was very apprehensive.
Suddenly I was overwhelmed with fear, lack of confidence, insecurity and self-doubt. Like so many people, I believed that being ethically non-monogamous meant make or break for my relationship.
Getting to the stage where I can now offer my advice and expertise has meant overcoming many obstacles, and it has been a long process. Over the last ten years, I have learned that there is not a one size fits all approach when it comes to relationships. And that we as humans flourish when we put aside traditional ideas about what society dictates our lives should be like, and start approaching relationships and sexuality from a different angle.
Here, just for fun, are 5 facts about me:
- I am naturally a redhead, but I regularly change up my look/ style to keep it fresh and keep you all guessing!
- I’m a massive fan of Fleetwood Mac
- I’m obsessed with Yorkshire Tea!
- I don’t know my left from my right
- I once cooked dinner for Arnold Schwarzenegger and Sylvester Stallone.
Rosie Kay is just like you!
I haven't always been ThisKindaGirl.
While being her is great and living the swinger lifestyle is amazing; the parties, the clubs, the people, it’s only one side to me. It didn’t happen overnight, let me assure you!
To understand what Thiskindagirl is all about, I think it is important that you meet the real me. The real Rosie. The girl who has had to overcome self-comparison and insecurity and put aside her initial reservations and fears. The girl who a few years ago was so insecure in her relationships that she used to deny herself what she craved out of fear of upsetting her partner.
I want to show you that there are other ways to have relationships.
I now want to share with people like yourself that having the desire to open up your relationship or explore other types of relationships is possible.
Not only will I teach you how to do this successfully whilst keeping your relationship intact, but I will also help you understand why you feel this way in the first place.
A large part of the journey starts with acceptance. Acceptance that we are responding to our bodies natural urges and that placing all expectations on one partner for the rest of their lives is very unrealistic.
What if I told you there was a way to enjoy all the fantastic physical and emotional intimacy that comes with being in a relationship whilst exploring your sexuality in a way that doesn’t jeopardise your existing relationship?
Those desires you keep hidden away from your partner, those fantasies you have felt unable to share with them out of fear of rejection or shame.
I want to show you that there are other ways to have relationships.
Ways that allow you to have all the emotional intimacy and security that monogamy offers but the ability to explore other possibilities whilst maintaining your existing relationship.
Let’s banish the stigma about Ethical Non-Monogamy and Swinger Lifestyle together!
Are you ready?
